Make your territory yours

 

One great factory feature we humans come with is the idea of being territorial. It means you have a certain physical space that is your area, and you don’t like others intruding. In modern times, this territorial nature doesn’t get to express itself in healthy ways. 

Here’s one solution: Figure out how you can make the space you live in your territory -- how you can make it uniquely yours -- so that when you get pressure from the outside and need a place to chill, you have a place that you want to go to. As soon as you walk in the door, you can already feel yourself relaxing and feeling “at home.”

But protect your territory. If someone comes in and does anything unacceptable to you, say: “Stop for a sec; I think it’s better if you go right now. I don’t like it when that kind of thing happens inside my space. Why don’t you go right now and we’ll pick this up another time.” Make your territory yours. 

Own it.